How to Stop Emotional Abuse

Kitya — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:30:18 +0000

Its not easy for everyone to overcome it. This video shows WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes an emotional abuser’s bahavior may be comfortable to you without being aware that it is destructive because you may not learned how to set your own standards and validate your feelings.

Abusers struggle with feelings of powerlessness and hurt like you do. They most likely to have been raised in an environment where there is emotional abuse and abusing you is a way to cope with their own anger and fear. The abuser feels that he is in control of you rather than dealing with his own behavior.

There is a cycle of abuse that occurs in a abusive situation:

1. Build-up of conflict or tension between the two of you

2. Release of emotions wherein abuse occurs

3. The abuser becomes sorry and makes promises not to repeat the abuse.

If this cycle happens all over again…

This time, you might want to take a good look at yourself and realize your self-worth.

Do you feel that it is better to get out of the relationship or remain in the relationship?

Start changing your life by making a choice that will help you start a new life that you deserve!

If you intend to stay in a relationship, you should stop the abuse that is done to you. You have all the power to make it stop!

How to stop the abuse:

- Acknowledging the problem

- Confrontation

- Insist your own boundaries

- Build your self-esteem

- Refusal to risk further abuse

- Demand rational actions

- Never show that you are afraid of the abuser

- Be vigilant and doubting

- Never give second chances

- Play on his fear of abandonment

- Do not respond to his flattering words nor his treats.

- Prepare back-up plans

Get an outside perspective to find out if you are making the right decisions. If things does not change in a month or two then you must get out of the relationship.

You have to satisfy your need of companionship, to be with someone who supports you and treat you the way you should be treated. If your partner fails to do that then I think you know that you are not in the right kind of a relationship.

Remember: You can stop the emotional abuse. You have the right to be happy and you deserve respect, dignity, and more happiness. The solution is in your hands.

Photography done by Jamie (Summerfeild) Tuck ~~~OASIS Photography~~~ www.oasisphotos.com Assignment # 6 for KNTM Abuse