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Finding Happiness Regardless of Any Emotional Abuse

Posted by neilwarner in Emotional Abuse on November 25, 2009

by Grace Compass Church

by Grace Compass Church

In my own opinion, experiences of emotional abuse should not be a hindrance to our own happiness. This should not be the reason for the continuous pain in our lives. If there are bad things that happen to us, it does not mean that we should be miserable in our entire lives. There is always a reason why things happen and that makes us stronger, wiser and better individuals.


There would be instances that you associate your happiness with your childhood. There are times that you are trying to seek replication of your happiness especially if you were not able to achieve such happiness in your childhood. For example women would seek a father figure in every man they can find… and in the long run, they would realize it is not really something that can make them happy or it is not the person they want to be with.

It is important that you respect and care of yourself first then things just go smooth and easy. If your cup is filled, then it simply means that you are capable of giving your love unconditionally. If this happens, it should really make you happy in life and you begin to think of your life plans easily and willingly.

What is important for you has to be important for any partner you can select: don’t accept that your spouse rejects or ignores an important part of you. It is tantamount to rejecting a piece of you, so don’t agree of dumping the things that you like or the things that makes you happy just to make get your partner’s approval.

Some women fall for only a piece of what they ideally see as their potential partner. There are things that are being ignored like the values that she wants from a guy. Sometimes it also happens that their own happiness is compromised when they are not appreciated and valued by their partner.

We need to remember that no matter what emotional abuse we have experienced in our lives, we always need to accept and love. We are responsible for a life that is ours. It is a pity thing to see women tend to accept the pain of an abusive relationship and go on with their lives unhappy and unfulfilled.

When we rediscover ourselves, we can grow, become independent and mature in our lives and in the relationships that we are in. We can consider that emotional abuse is a warning for us to consider which kind of relationship we need and deserve.

It is time to move on and be happy once and for all. Discover your life purpose and make it happen.


This video shows warning signs that your are in an abusive relationship:

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How to Stop Emotional Abuse

Posted by Kitya in Emotional Abuse on October 27, 2009

Its not easy for everyone to overcome it. This video shows WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes an emotional abuser’s bahavior may be comfortable to you without being aware that it is destructive because you may not learned how to set your own standards and validate your feelings.
Abusers struggle with feelings of powerlessness and hurt like you do. They most likely to have been raised in an environment where there is emotional abuse and abusing you is a way to cope with their own anger and fear. The abuser feels that he is in control of you rather than dealing with his own behavior.
There is a cycle of abuse that occurs in a abusive situation:
1. Build-up of conflict or tension between the two of you
2. Release of emotions wherein abuse occurs
3. The abuser becomes sorry and makes promises not to repeat the abuse.
If this cycle happens all over again…
This time, you might want to take a good look at yourself and realize your self-worth.
Do you feel that it is better to get out of the relationship or remain in the relationship?
Start changing your life by making a choice that will help you start a new life that you deserve!
If you intend to stay in a relationship, you should stop the abuse that is done to you. You have all the power to make it stop!
How to stop the abuse:
- Acknowledging the problem
- Confrontation
- Insist your own boundaries
- Build your self-esteem
- Refusal to risk further abuse
- Demand rational actions
- Never show that you are afraid of the abuser
- Be vigilant and doubting
- Never give second chances
- Play on his fear of abandonment
- Do not respond to his flattering words nor his treats.
- Prepare back-up plans
Get an outside perspective to find out if you are making the right decisions. If things does not change in a month or two then you must get out of the relationship.
You have to satisfy your need of companionship, to be with someone who supports you and treat you the way you should be treated. If your partner fails to do that then I think you know that you are not in the right kind of a relationship.
Remember: You can stop the emotional abuse. You have the right to be happy and you deserve respect, dignity, and more happiness. The solution is in your hands.
Photography done by Jamie (Summerfeild) Tuck ~~~OASIS Photography~~~ www.oasisphotos.com Assignment # 6 for KNTM Abuse

Photography done by Jamie (Summerfeild) Tuck ~~~OASIS Photography~~~ www.oasisphotos.com Assignment # 6 for KNTM Abuse

Sometimes an emotional abuser’s bahavior may be comfortable to you without being aware that it is destructive because you may not learned how to set your own standards and validate your feelings.

Abusers struggle with feelings of powerlessness and hurt like you do. They most likely to have been raised in an environment where there is emotional abuse and abusing you is a way to cope with their own anger and fear. The abuser feels that he is in control of you rather than dealing with his own behavior.

There is a cycle of abuse that occurs in a abusive situation:

1. Build-up of conflict or tension between the two of you

2. Release of emotions wherein abuse occurs

3. The abuser becomes sorry and makes promises not to repeat the abuse.

If this cycle happens all over again…

This time, you might want to take a good look at yourself and realize your self-worth.

Do you feel that it is better to get out of the relationship or remain in the relationship?

Start changing your life by making a choice that will help you start a new life that you deserve!

If you intend to stay in a relationship, you should stop the abuse that is done to you. You have all the power to make it stop!

How to stop the abuse:

- Acknowledging the problem

- Confrontation

- Insist your own boundaries

- Build your self-esteem

- Refusal to risk further abuse

- Demand rational actions

- Never show that you are afraid of the abuser

- Be vigilant and doubting

- Never give second chances

- Play on his fear of abandonment

- Do not respond to his flattering words nor his treats.

- Prepare back-up plans

Get an outside perspective to find out if you are making the right decisions. If things does not change in a month or two then you must get out of the relationship.

You have to satisfy your need of companionship, to be with someone who supports you and treat you the way you should be treated. If your partner fails to do that then I think you know that you are not in the right kind of a relationship.

Remember: You can stop the emotional abuse. You have the right to be happy and you deserve respect, dignity, and more happiness. The solution is in your hands.

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How to Stop Emotional Abuse