a lot of grief and not enough fun in your relationships?
From: Neil Warner
Co Author of the The Art of Positive Conflicts
Thursday, October 08th
old disputes still making your heart squeeze, but unsure of the
steps which will bridge the gap and restore the broken bonds?
Now you can improve your relationships almost immediately without compromising your self-respect or the agreement with your
partner. Even if your relationships have already disintegrated
and fallen apart because of the high level of conflict, there is still
a chance for success!
best part is that other people in your life
don't have to change! You don't have to ask anyone to do things, they
will do them because you are prompting them to do so!
Could this be your case:
"My brother, after being married twice,
got into this huge fight with his new wife and she was gone next
day.....we could not help his sorrow at realizing how lonely he
was. But, he always wanted to have the last word, in this case to
the mirror. Such a pity he would not accept to change the way he
understoood how relationships work. Finally, he ended up with a
Ken C., Tucson
Here are some hard questions but please, YOU have to answer
- Are you having more arguments than you can manage?
- Is there a lot of grief and not enough fun in your relationships?
- Are you starved for support, recognition and love in your main relationships?
Would you like your relationships taking off in a positive
direction like never before?
Now you can improve your relationships almost immediately
without compromising your self-respect or the agreement with your partner.
Even if your relationships have already disintegrated and fallen apart
because of the high level of conflict, there is still a chance for success!
So, you think now that the other person will not agree to work with you
in repairing the relationship? Well, don’t worry about that any
longer! You need two to have a dispute, but to repair
your relationship, you need only one -- YOU.
The best part of this POSITIVE CONFLICT METHOD is that
other people in your life don't have to change!
What you have been doing up until now has composed the problem, and hurt
people around you, without you knowing what was the effect of your behavior.
Your partner will only exhibit the best part of him/herself, once you
stop doing things they can perceive as fighting and quarrelling, and begin
offering positive framings where they can feel happy and satisfied.
Most of the conversations that people have in relationships that fail,
consist of reacting automatically to each other and “pushing each
other's buttons.” You can predict which couple will end up divorcing,
by the kind of disputes they have in the first three months of marriage!
When frustration builds up, we don’t know better than to escalate
by being angry, oppositional and violent. WE WANT TO BE RIGHT! But, demanding,
challenging and requesting that the other changes first, is a dead end.
“After eight years of living together,
we were at odds end; I was closed and distant and she was acting
really depressed. I could not trust that she would listen to me,
and she was acting more and more scared of me…..But the idea
of separation was even worse. Getting some help was not easy, because
for my friends, leaving her was a slam dunk decision. I had to look
around and find some help with my way of framing my thoughts in
my conversations with her, in the Positive Conflicts ebook. What
a difference it made! At last, both had some hope that we could
communicate at a more personal level, and she began trusting me,
and opening up what was her disappointment with me.”
Albert G. (Telluride, CO)
Consequently, if you stop nagging, reacting with rage and frustration
and change your behaviors into POSITIVE CONFLICT NOW, your partner will
automatically react differently. There is a simple, yet effective, process
to manage disputes even before they appear.
THIS LOOKS AS A MONUMENTAL TASK FOR YOU
NOW, BUT IT' S EASY TO DO WHEN YOU BEHAVE FOLLOWING THE SUGGESTIONS OF
You'll learn how to:
- Understand what is going on under any fight.
- Stop having your buttons pushed by others, and reacting with anger.
- Avoid unleashing other people’s emotional reactions.
- Frame all situations into positive definitions for your advantage.
- Determine what actions you need to do to solve confrontations.
- Build strength and confidence in your skills.
- Experience higher self-esteem and a much more satisfying life.
- Gain INTERPERSONAL POWER every step of the way.
WE GUARANTEEE that this process of POSITIVE
CONFLICTS will WORK!
This is something different - REALLY different. This is something that
you probably haven't even thought of yet. It puts your usual ideas about how to resolve conflict in a different
light, and teaches you guerrilla tactics to identify and build on the
positive aspects of the relationship and avoid escalating negative confrontations.
The POSITIVE CONFLICTS tactics are different, ethical, logical and, on
top of all that,
Here is Jim’s real
“I had been waiting to have a good relationship the last fifteen
years, dating different women, when I met Isabella. She was different,
and blew my heart away from the beginning. But we fought a lot,
and while I tried my best to be always calm and reasonable, she
began seeing me as uncaring and selfish. I was pretty desperate,
trying to convince her of my love and getting systematically rejected.
As much as I tried, she would not even accept to talk to me about
us, and our relationship! She decided to close me out of her life
and feelings, and I was completely crushed, but at the same time
doing things that were harassing her. And then, someone talked to
me about the Positive Conflicts book, and I began to see things
in a different perspective. Now, I know how to use my words to come
across as firm but seriously caring, and she listens to me, and
even developed a new interest in spending her life with me. All
the while I thought that was being calm and rational, I was coming
across to her as cold and calculating! but now I know how to express
myself in the most positive way!
Let's face it- relationships are emotional processes, where logic has
little to do. If you don’t learn how to express yourself in an emotionally
effective way, you are as good as a mute person!
Human beings need a lot of caring, warm and supportive connections in
order to live a happy and long life. Many studies confirm that people
in intimate, emotionally-sound relationships live longer and happier lives
than others. In this way, connected people share the highs of each other’s
successes and the low of each other’s disappointments, because they
are emotionally available to each other. But constant fighting erodes
this support and can leave you frustrated, sad and isolated. Being able
to nurture an emotionally-sound relationship becomes a matter of survival
and communicating in a positive way the key to enhancing your happiness
quotient. And your overall degree of health too!
What happens is that we begin relationships with positive emotions (love
and respect) but when conflict appears, and we don’t manage it well,
we end up with broken relationships and a lot of anger and sadness. Failure
to connect and bond is very frightening because leaves us open to feelings
of helplessness and isolation.
All the while, when we need the most some positive
recognition from others, what we keep building up are negative
perceptions and failure images! This is a destructive spiral that leads
us into despair.
If this makes sense, here are three things for you to
1. Negative emotions get imprinted in us, and pop
up frequently without our awareness (Unfortunately, we don’t realize
how frequent this is.)
2. Negative feelings can shape ours, and theirs perceptions,
so perpetuating this cycle of miscommunication-breakup-loneliness. (And
we don’t realize how this is happening).
3. It’s the way we express and frame our perceptions
that builds a negative interaction that scares people away. When they
need and expect recognition, we give them negative appreciations!
NOW, COMES THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION:
How much is keeping your present relationship worth? And being secure
in your other relationships, at work, with bosses, friends? What about
the other people in your life for whom it might be important to repair
and keep a good relationship ... like your siblings, parents or friends?
The quality of our lives depends on the quality of the relationships
we have with other people. The investment of only thirty dollars is REALLY
not expensive, considering that it will make your relationships work better.
Because you will manage every other relationship better, with the learning
from this one reading, this is a cost that you will see as an excellent
investment in your future emotional health! You eed an excellent emotionally
enriching relationship to survive and thrive!
The choice is NOW YOURS: it’s either the price of a small expense,
like having a caffe latte each morning, for two weeks, or your life. Are
you ready to buy the ebook POSITIVE CONFLICTS NOW? If not, keep reading!
The POSITIVE CONFLICTS book is guaranteed to show you,
step by step how to defuse hostility, confront with care and respect,
and start making all your relationships better.
The real questions are:
- Do you really want to keep your present relationships as miserable
as they are now?
- Do you just only want to complain about how bad and frustrating they
are, and show your war wounds to your friends? Or do you really want
to be happier?
- What does your intuition tell you? Can you listen to your need to
be appreciated and loved?
If you could turn the clock back to when you two first met, would you
like to begin the story knowing how to build a much stronger, substantial
and mature relationship as well?
If you believe that this is the right person for you,
consider these points:
If you are resigned to your loss, STOP!
- If you think it's too late, it's not.
- If you "know" that it's hopeless, it's not.
- If you've given up, don't.
- If you're convinced that your partner would never want to come back,
- If you want your relationship back, you can have it, and as good as,
and maybe better that it has ever been.
“I thought that all was lost with my
partner, after six months of silence and all kind of recriminations…the
magic was gone, and I was trapped in this cold and empty marriage…To
my desperation, our confrontations had only one meaning: that our
relationship was a total failure. I had sleepless nights, all kind
of gastric symptoms and an overall depressive feeling about my life
and my bleak future without him. It was at that moment when I had
a conversation with a co-worker and she recommended POSITIVE CONFLICTS
to me…..I was able to read it all in a day, and began applying
the basic ideas the same evening. His face changed and for the first
time in months, he was listening to me! Now we are talking about
how to help each other apply the concepts, so we can use them to
strengthen our relationship…neither of us wants a break up,
we are afraid of that because we know that is a communication issue
between basically two good people that wish to stay together…”
Ilse, Brattleboro, Vt.
The book will show you how to make
The book is very easy to read, has very few concepts, theories and complex
explanations, but it does have step-by-step instructions for repairing
damaged relationships RIGHT NOW!
Because you want to repair your relationship,
not read about how it should work….
We've included some explanations, so that you have a basic understanding
of what you'll be doing but instinctively, you'll probably understand
it anyway because the process is logical, even though we don't normally
think that way.
Remember, we're not very logical when it comes to establishing and maintaining
our relationships. We only use logic to find excuses for being defensive
and to justify why the relationship isn't working.
In this book you'll learn:
- The exact steps to repair your relationship independently of the
other person’s explicit consent - in fact your partner doesn't
even have to know that you're repairing the relationship right in front
- Exactly what to do and say, more importantly what not to do and what
not to say.
- That it doesn't matter how long you've been fighting, how long or
how much you "hated" each other, or how much bad baggage you're
carrying from the past.
If you want to keep your relationship alive and make it a healthy one,
the POSITIVE CONFLICTS process will work for you.
If you're not happy with your relationship and choose to leave without
ordering the book, fine. Just don't leave because you think that you'll
find a better solution because most likely you will not. If you keep doing
the same things as always, you will get the same results as always.
The Divorce rate for second marriages is much higher than for first
ones. Before you decide to quit, check if you have all the necessary positive
answers to the following questions:
- Do you know what you're going to do differently or how different
you're going to be in your next relationship?
- How do you know if your new approach in your new relationship will
- Do you actually have that new approach worked out, even tried out
with everybody else or are you hoping that you'll find a perfectly matched
- If you have a new approach and haven't tested it yet, how can you
know if your self-confidence has improved?
If your answers are negative, repair this relationship first and then
if you want to go, go. This failed relationship will help you try the
techniques without regret. Then at least you are assured that you aren't
going to repeat the same mistakes.
“I had some different ideas about being
in conflicts fearing that it always included losing your loved ones.......in
POSITIVE CONFLICTS am very happy and relieved to find such a wonderful
resource that teaches me otherwise. It can assert what I think without
being afraid of being left alone”.
--C.M. New Orleans,
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I really loved it! Now, I can respect myself and my values, respect
others and also keep my relationships in good health! What a relief!
I’m very grateful for this help!”
--T.N. Naples, FL.
“I have been perceived as a difficult person all my life,
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others….What a turn-around! My relationships have begun to
reverse 180 degrees and moving in the RIGHT direction! This is the
way I always wanted to connect with others, so my heartfelt thanks
--N.P. Washington, DC
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